Stick Through the Test…

Aug 12, 2011 by

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Lately, I’ve been so engrossed in the impact of relationships to our success in life. And how real success is attained only when we have our family and friends around to celebrate with. This seems paradoxical because nearly every successful – world class top performer – I’ve heard or read about has had at least one divorce. At some point, it seemed like neglecting relationships is the sine qua non for exceptional success! It’s not so difficult to understand why, since you need all the time you’ve got to immerse yourself in your work to get to the top! But if you agree with me that we need our loved ones to be truly successful, then read on!! :-D

I have a new obsession for structural stress analysis. It’s a field in engineering. Here’s the entire summary of the concept of stress analysis: you want to calculate the largest amount of load a structure can carry before it breaks down (fails). That is, you want to know the strength of the material. In order to do this, the material is subjected to an increasing amount of force (load) – say from 10lb, to 20lb, to 30lb e.t.c. This process is continued until the material finally reaches it’s yield point – where it can’t take the force anymore – and breaks down. That force will be recorded as the yield strength of the material i.e. how strong it is! Geeky right? :-D

So, in order to find the strength of a material, you have to subject it to extreme conditions! The same theory applies to relationships: you don’t measure the strength of your relationships when everything’s going great! Walking away from a dear friend because they messed up is just a reflection of the weakness of your relationship! It’s soo easy to say, “I love you!” when everything is going great…I mean, who can’t say that? But only a true friend will dare stick around after a huge fight. The fact that we’re all human beings guarantees that we won’t always agree. But not letting our differences and disagreements get in the way of our relationships is an exhibition of their strength. So don’t walk away from an awesome friend or family. Stick around! Work things out. Prove that your relationship is strong enough to carry any amount of stress!! Stick through the test!

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Learn the Attitude of Gratitude…

Aug 2, 2011 by

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“Of all the attitudes we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.” – Zig Ziglar

I can’t explain how it works, but we’re all prone to it: We’ll ALWAYS give more sacrificially to the ones that show appreciation to us. It might be a small favor we did, or perhaps a huge one. Regardless, we all have a bigger heart for the people that come back to say, “Thank you.” God does it, too. He gives more to the ones that remember to say, “Thank you.”

I’ve become an unrepentant fanatical believer in the power of showing appreciation; I’ve made it a vital part of my life. Here’s a secret I’ve learned: although people almost always say, “Oh it was a pleasure,” or, “Don’t mention it,” or better still, “You’re welcome” very casually (as if they could care less about it), they take note of the fact that you even bothered to thank them.

This is the attitude that will take you to the top. Take it upon yourself to thank your way to greatness! So, the next time someone does or says something nice to you, instead of being all chatty about it just say, “Thank you.”

I want to close by thanking you. Yes, you that is reading this right now! :-) Last month alone, we had over 500 hits, i.e. more than 500 people stopped by to check out our posts. That is sooo encouraging. For that we want to say, thank you! And by God’s grace, we’ll keep em coming! It’s because of people like you that we keep posting these blogs. Hoping that at least one or two of them will poke something inside of you; and inspire you to strive to become the best you can be. You guyz rock!!

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Take control of your life: Smile…

Jul 25, 2011 by

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Growing up, we had this poster in our living room. It had the portrait of a pretty lady smiling, with these words printed beneath her…

“Just a smile. A smile does not cost anything but achieves a lot. It is pleasing to those who receive it and harmless to those who give it. Though it is short lived, it’s memory is for a long time!”

As kids, while we played in the living room, we unconsciously had these words inscribed in our hearts. I wrote that from memory by the way… :-D

Smiling when you’re expected to be pissed is not a sign of weakness. It’s a certain kind of strength. It’s the kind of strength that tells whoever or whatever is pissing you off that you’re confident about what you COULD do, but you’ve just CHOSEN not to react! Smiling makes you appear friendly and very likable! And most times, you really don’t realize how many people you encouraged and helped have a great day…just by smiling! Also, it’s been scientifically proven that smiling a lot increases our tendencies of living longer. So what the heck! Just smile! Besides, it costs you nothing…:-D

Smiling when things are going great is not what makes you unique (everyone can do that!)…but smiling when everything is all jacked up…that’s what makes you unique! James Allen in his book – As A Man Thinketh – wrote, “Circumstance does not make a man, it reveals him to himself.” So, remember this: Just smile! When things happen that warrant your throwing a fit, consciously practice it… SMILE! Prolong your life!

Of course you’ll be pissed sometimes, but com’ on not all the time! Don’t take yourself too seriously. SMILE! :-D You look much better when you do! ;-)


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Take a chill pill…

Jul 10, 2011 by

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“This art of resting the mind and the power of dismissing from it all care and worry is probably one of the secrets of energy in our great men” – Captain J. A. Hadfield

It’s true we’re supposed to set goals for ourselves, and live everyday trying to achieve them, but becoming obsessed with success is probably the most unhealthy habit ever! In our quest for greatness,  we tend to be so focused on the goal that we forget about ourselves. We forget to take care of ourselves. We forget to eat right, sleep right, and make a little time to just seat back and relax.

So today, I’ve decided to keep this short so you can stop reading already and go do just that – seat back and relax. “The greatest achievement for any human being,” as Janet Jackson once said, “is to love God, yourself, and others.” This is VERY important. You need to rest.You need some time to unwind, even God did!

Ok here’s the challenge for you:

- Quit reading already and go chilax!  (Work out – go for a walk, run, lift weights, or just watch a movie)

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got Tyler Perry’s “Why Did I Get Married” to finish! :-)

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Change your company, change your life.

Jul 7, 2011 by

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“Stay away from a foolish man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips” – Proverbs 14:7 (NIV)

It’s very crucial to our success in life that we sit back every now and then to evaluate our relationships. The company we keep goes a long way in determining our success in life. This fact is probably cliche but it’s one that is worth stating again.

For us to achieve greatness, hanging around the right kind of people is as important as the air we breathe. Extensive research has shown that we become the combined average of the five people we hang around the most. This means that if you’re someone that hangs around losers, you’re probably on your way to becoming one yourself (that is if you aren’t already). As my very close friend, Goke Pelemo, often says, “Friendships are like binary digits – 0,1. They are either killing you (0) or adding value to your life (1)!”

You probably know someone who completely changed after hanging with a certain group of friends for a while. Maybe he/she used to be focused, never used to curse, smoke nor drink, but all that changed. They started smoking, drinking, using multiple curse words in a sentence, and completely lost focus of their goals and dreams. This is completely in line with what the bible said in 1 Cor. 15:33, “Do not be misled, bad company corrupts good manners.” (NIV)

To be successful in life, we need to hang around the kind of friends that will challenge us and force us to bring out the best we’ve got in us. We need friends who will poke us intellectually, and constantly keep us on check. To be successful, we need to hang around successful people, or at least people who are working towards it. Brian Tracy, a world class business man and renowned public speaker, once said, “If you want to be successful, learn from the people who are already there.”

The formula is pretty simple and rather straight forward; hang around people that have what you want. So if you want to goof around, then hang around goofers. If you want to be a failure, then hang around people who constantly blame the economy and find those ten thousand reasons why they’ll never make it. But if you REALLY want to make it in life, if you want to live your dreams, then find people who are like minded and hang around them! Just like the principle of sowing and reaping, i.e. what you sow is what you’ll reap, it’s that easy!

Now here’s a challenge:

1) Pick out that person/people that’s got the values you really want

2) Go make them your friend(s)! Don’t let your pride get in the way.

You’ve chosen to be great. I know that because you’ve read this page up to this point. So don’t let a bunch of friends stop you!!




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