Lately, I’ve been so engrossed in the impact of relationships to our success in life. And how real success is attained only when we have our family and friends around to celebrate with. This seems paradoxical because nearly every successful – world class top performer – I’ve heard or read about has had at least one divorce. At some point, it seemed like neglecting relationships is the sine qua non for exceptional success! It’s not so difficult to understand why, since you need all the time you’ve got to immerse yourself in your work to get to the top! But if you agree with me that we need our loved ones to be truly successful, then read on!!
I have a new obsession for structural stress analysis. It’s a field in engineering. Here’s the entire summary of the concept of stress analysis: you want to calculate the largest amount of load a structure can carry before it breaks down (fails). That is, you want to know the strength of the material. In order to do this, the material is subjected to an increasing amount of force (load) – say from 10lb, to 20lb, to 30lb e.t.c. This process is continued until the material finally reaches it’s yield point – where it can’t take the force anymore – and breaks down. That force will be recorded as the yield strength of the material i.e. how strong it is! Geeky right?
So, in order to find the strength of a material, you have to subject it to extreme conditions! The same theory applies to relationships: you don’t measure the strength of your relationships when everything’s going great! Walking away from a dear friend because they messed up is just a reflection of the weakness of your relationship! It’s soo easy to say, “I love you!” when everything is going great…I mean, who can’t say that? But only a true friend will dare stick around after a huge fight. The fact that we’re all human beings guarantees that we won’t always agree. But not letting our differences and disagreements get in the way of our relationships is an exhibition of their strength. So don’t walk away from an awesome friend or family. Stick around! Work things out. Prove that your relationship is strong enough to carry any amount of stress!! Stick through the test!read more