I was doing a personal review of myself lately and a few things came to my mind about personalities and affirmation. Do we realize how much power we give to the people around us? How someone tells you you’re looking good and all of a sudden your day brightens up and you feel good all through the day? Or how someone gives you an awful look and you get self conscious for the rest of the day? We tend to forget that we also have ourselves to uplift ourselves regardless of what anyone says or does. Does this mean affirmation from people around you is not important? No! But we’re going somewhere with this.
As with almost everything in life, there’s a spiral effect. Possibilities are that when you get your first compliment for the day, you brighten up. You feel confident and pretty or handsome. And as a result, you get more compliments and the day keeps getting better and better. You’ll perform better at work, have a better attitude and get even more affirmations from people in other things that have nothing to do with your look because that first compliment uplifted you. Same goes for getting a bad vibe or outrightly hearing from someone that you look bad. The day also takes a downward spiral. You get self conscious, fall on your face, can’t get anything right at work and just have a bad day altogether.
Now here’s the catch. You can be the one to give yourself that first compliment or that first boost that sends your day in an upward spiral. These things are generated from within. First things first, be confident in your own skin. If you’re tall, short, skinny or plump… Accept that it is who you are at least at this very moment. If there’s something you don’t like about yourself that you can change, get on an action plan to have it changed immediately (that’s another topic for another day). But yes, accept yourself exactly the way you are today. There’s something to appreciate about yourself regardless of your inconsistencies. Find those things and accentuate them. Chances are when you do a good job at accentuating your assets before stepping outside your door, you’ll come out feeling confident and radiant. You’ll start out your day feeling like you can take over the world.
The key here today is that you can have yourself positively empowered everyday if you learn how to find affirmation from within and then initiate the spiral effect for yourself. I used looks as an instance in this piece because it is one thing I know a lot of people can relate to but this applies to everything. Career, sports, projects, etc. With you or your team believing and being passionate right from day one, you send out the energy you need to get more energy from the world around you.
- Believe in yourself
- Believe in whatever is worth your time
- Don’t wait for the rest of the world to empower you. Affirm yourself knowing that your effort is a seed that will grow and create a spiral of affirmations from the world around you.